A handsome couple – she: tall, easy on the eyes, he: older, shitlord face – walked by me and I overheard the following:
Her: “You’re always questioning what I do.”
Him: “No, I don’t do that…blah blah”
He trailed off, but I heard enough to know that this man was a paper alpha, hidden beta.
Simple little beta male tells like that say so much. He got defensive. He fell into her frame. He made excuses/apologized for his behavior, with a very predictable reactive wince.
There are so many ways this man could’ve replied that projected an aura of irresistible charisma. It’s not that hard to be the alpha male women love. All you have to do is THINK DIFFERENT. Get out of that obsequious mental space where all that matters is appeasing your woman and “making it all right”. For instance,
Her: “You’re always questioning what I do.”
Him: “YUP. Someone’s gotta run a tight ship in this relationship.”
Does the right phrasing elude you? Never mind! It’s your head space that you need a handle on. In my example, the man does NOT get defensive (if anything, he gets OFFENSIVE), he does NOT fall into the woman’s frame (he makes his own frame), and he does NOT make excuses or walk back his impertinence (he instead implies she’s to blame for her complaints).
When you have the right head space, the right words will flow like a river. As will the poosy tingles.
Filed under: Beta, Game, Relationships
